10 Years & Counting

Today marks my 10th wedding anniversary. My husband and I have had some ups and downs but I can honestly say I’m more in love with him today than I was then. This is one of my favorite pictures from that day. It marks the moment when we “put it on paper”.

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Our wedding day was one day but the magic has been in our marriage. We have two wonderful little boys, a life we’re both happy with and proud of as well as a lifetime of love to go. Neither one of us had great images of marriage from our parents, so we’re lucky to have family members who showed us a great example with their love.

My grandparents were married for 53 years until my grandfather’s death while my aunt (now deceased) and uncle were married for 50 years. They had very different marriages looking on from the outside. However, they stayed married because they found what worked for their house. My grandmother was a bossy woman and my grandfather let her be. He was a very calm person to balance her. My aunt and uncle just seemed like a picture perfect. I never really heard them argue but I know they did at some point in time. They just had to right?

My aunt and uncle were among our first visitors once my husband and I were married. We really enjoyed spending time with them back in out first apartment and hearing the talk about their marriage 45 years later. Β  l was spending time with my uncle last week in California and asked him how people fall out of love because I don’t see it. I know we’re busy now but I’m confident that it’ll come back to just he and I again. He shared a fond memory of he and my aunt. He told me she would bring a picnic lunch and they would have lunch in the park when they were at the height of busyness in their lives. They didn’t call it making a date but knew they needed to connect.

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Seeing as how they were married for 50 years, I guess I’d better keep that in mind.Β  I’m making sure we keep doing that now that school is back in. The biggest things I’ve learned in my 10 years are do what works for your family and don’t keep score. There are tons of other little things but these are the biggest ones.

What lessons have you learned from your marriage? What are some other things you do to keep connected? I’m all for learning from others experiences.

Comments

  1. says

    I think making sure you date each other even after marriage is important. It’s easy to put our spouses on the back burner, but to last, we have to be careful about that.

  2. says

    Happy anniversary and thank you for sharing your story. I love your advice about not keeping score, I think that’s key. Its important to remember that you’re not in competition with your spouse, you’re on the same team. I think its best to be on the same page about children, religion and money.

  3. says

    Congrats! I am with my man 22 years! I find communication to be key, something we constantly have to remember to do, especially because we have a kid and he takes over everything. But, don’t keep score? How else would I know that I was winning!!!

  4. says

    Happy (belated) anniversary! Ten years is quite the milestone. My grandparents were married over 60. My husband and I will be celebrating 7 years in October.

  5. says

    Happy anniversary to you and your husband! Marriage is definitely not easy by any means, but it’s so great that you love him even more than the day you got married!

  6. says

    I often think that people who come from families where their are long length marriages they are more inclined to work a little harder on their own marriage when time are tough instead of walking away. Happy Anniversary!

  7. says

    Congrats on 10 years. I’m so happy y’all worked through the downs. Marriage is work! But I’m the same way. I love mine more than the day I married him. I love growing old with someone. To many more happy years of marriage! Cheers!

  8. says

    Congrats, that is an awesome accomplishment! Me and my husband have been together for over 5 years and married for over a year now! I can’t wait till we hit our milestones!

  9. says

    Congratulations!!! Hubby and I have only been married for 4 years. I learned long before we ever said “I do” that I can’t sweat the small stuff. Him leaving his clothes in a pile beside the hamper instead of in the hamper, while annoying, is not a reason to fight. So I simply just pick them up each and every time. Same principle for other small things….

  10. says

    Im not married but I do desire to be a wife one day in the near future. My parents have been together for 30 years and it wasnt easy but it really all boils down to seeing them have a balance. You know what makes your partner tick and you guys might have days where there are blow ups…but at the end dont hold onto grudges and just work through issues. I would love to when I am married always make sure my husband feels love will compliments and kind words in hopes that it will be reciprocated to be and it will be be natural thing not routine.

  11. says

    Congratulations! We just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary. We work opposite shifts so our kids can stay home, so we don’t see each other much. We make sure EVERY Friday night is our in home date night no matter what! It’s my favourite night! =)

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