Parenting Continuing Education – Get the Behavior You Want…Without Being the Parent You Hate!

Continuing Education for Parenthood-

A year or so ago, I asked my husband to rate me on a scale of 1 – 10 as a wife and mother. He didn’t rate me a perfect 10 and I don’t know that I really was expecting it. That conversation is one of the turning points made me think differently about how I approach my family life.  I keep up my certifications for professional reasons, I attend blogger conferences for professional development but am I as deliberate about being a wife and mother?

With this in mind, I jumped at the chance to review a copy of the book, Get the Behavior You Want…Without Being the Parent You Hate! I don’t have tons of time for reading but this seemed like a perfect book for me because I want well-behaved children without having to yell, threaten or take things away. Maybe it’s just me who has to resort to the negative behaviors. If you’re children are perfect, this is not the book for you.

Here’s Why I Loved It

First, I loved that Dr. G started the book off by saying she is only a parenting expert on the four kids who live in her house. Wow, what a neat concept from an expert! But she totally gets my philosophy on parenting, you know your children best. Also, I love that Dr. G acknowledges the time limits most people face and suggests that you look at the table of contents to find issue that’s most pressing to your family now and start there. It’s also written very conversationally and doesn’t tax your brain a great deal (important to me at the end of the day) with extra language.

I like that there are clear takeaways for each lesson. The overall theme of the book is that we need to teach children the three R’s of life: Respect, Responsibility and Resilience. Each topic (i.e. “Teach Kids to Get Themselves Clean”) is addressed in a chapter with practical and age-appropriate lessons on how implement these lessons with your children. The final section of the book, “Making Change Happen: How to Actually Get Kids to Do This Stuff”, is for parents. It provides practical suggestions that you can implement with your family right away with the understanding that true results will come over time.

Overall, I highly recommend that you get this book right away. Here’s a link to purchase via Amazon where’s available in both paperback and Kindle versions but it’s also available at Barnes & Noble and wherever better books are sold.   I’ll even do you one better and send you a copy because I believe in it so much! Just enter the giveaway below to win a copy of the book. I’m sure it will help another family as much as it’s helped me.

Tell me, what’s the pain point for your family and where do you need the most help with your children, respect, responsibility or resilience?

About Dr. G

Deborah Gilboa, MD, aka “Doctor G” is a Pittsburgh-based parenting expert, Family Physician, international speaker, author, media expert and mom of four boys.  She developed the “3 R’s of Parenting” to empower parents to raise respectful, responsible and resilient kids, and in response to the years of character building questions she’s received from her patients.

Get the Behavior You Want…Book Giveaway


  1. Robin (Masshole Mommy) says

    This sounds like a book that all parents should read. I am sure we could all take something away from it.

  2. says

    I liked that you didn’t have to sit there and read the whole thing at once. You could flip to the issue you were concerned about and your child’s age and get practical advice.

    • says

      Shell, as Kendra said, that was my big goal for this book – a resource you could use when you need it to get the answer you are looking for! Thanks!

  3. Aisha wood says

    Dr.G is amazing! I got to see her speak at a conference and took back so much info and helped get rid of some if my bits issues!

  4. says

    I love doctors that don’t tell you how to parent your child (their way or you’re wrong), but give an opinion on what they have done or what works for other parents.

    Our biggest struggle right now is our 4 year old testing limits. I have a problem raising my voice because he will do the same thing five times after being asked to stop, or will whine if I tell him no.

    • says

      Kecia, I know first hand how frustrating that is. Remember that if he whines, that is his decision. As long as he stops, you can ignore the whining, right? If whining doesn’t get him anywhere he’ll stop soon!

  5. says

    There are phases I feel like I could use ALL the help in the world. I really like books that I can just turn to the chapter that applies to me in that phase.

  6. says

    The fact that she admits she’s only an expert on her four kids makes me willing to read it. I think learning is lifelong. We all need some support along the way!

  7. Catherine S says

    Thanks for the review, it sounds like a great book to help parents. I will share it with friends and family that have younger kids.

  8. says

    I would love to get my kids to want to help around the house. We have just moved into a new house and i can not get them to help with the unpacking and organizing. They are 17 and 19 so we are not taking about little ones.

  9. says

    It’s great that you want to do better an be better. Motherhood and good parenting is not easy and not always instinctive. I’ve caught myself screaming trying to be heard and that’s not the answer. It feels right in the moment that my kids gang up on me though.

  10. says

    This looks like a great book. I sometimes really feel like I have no idea what I’m doing even after having lots of kids! I’m sure we can all get something out of this book!

  11. says

    I wasn’t a very good parent and could have used help in many areas. That being said, our kids are now having kids and I would love to give them this book.

  12. Christina says

    I can’t help but be impressed with how much information you are giving out as a blogger. Congratulations to you on finding a niche and running with it!

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